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Courage


Courage

John Fitzgerald Kennedy

The courage of life is often a less dramatic spectacle than the courage of a final moment; but it is no less a magnificent mixture of triumph and tragedy. A man does what he must—in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obastacles and dangers and pressures— and that is the basis of human morality.


To be courageous…requires no exceptional qualifications, no magic formula, no special combination of time, place and circumstances. It is an opportunity that sooner or later is presented to us all. Politics merely furnishes one arena of life which imposes special tests of courage. In whatever arena of life one may meet the challenge of courage, whatever may be the sacrifices he faces if he follows his own conscience—the loss of his friends, his fortune, his contentment, even the esteem of his fellow men—each man must decide for himself the course he will follow. The stories of past courage can define that ingredient—they can teach, they can offer hope, they can provide inspiration. But they can not supply courage itself. For this each man must look into his own soul.

THE POWER OF YET

THE POWER OF YET

Carol Dweck

I heard about a school at Chicago where
students had to pass a certain number of courses to graduate, and if they didn’t
pass the a course, they got the grade “Not Yet.” And I thought that it was
fantastic, because if you get a failing grade, you think, I’m nothing, I’m
nowhere. But if you get “Not Yet”,you understand you are on a learning curve. It
gives you a path into the future. “Not Yet” also gave me insight into a
critical event in my career, a real turning point. I hope to see how children
coped with challenge and difficulty, so I gave ten-year-old kids problems that
were slightly too hard for them. Some of them reacted in a shockingly positive
way. They said things like “I love a challenge,” or, “You know, I was hoping
this would be informative.” They understood their ability could be developed. They
had what I called a growth mindset. But other students felt it was tragic,
catastrophic. From their more fixed mindset perspective, their intelligence had
been up for judgment and they failed. Instead of luxuriating the power of yet,
they were gripped in the tyranny of now. So what did they do next? I’ll tell
you what did they do next. In one study, they told us they could probably cheat
the next time instead of studying more if they failed a test. In another study,
after their failure, they looked for someone who did worse than they did, so
they could feel really good about themselves. And in study after study, they
have run from difficulty.

Scientists measured the electrical activity
from  the brain as students confronted an
error. On the left, you see the fixed mindset students. There’s hardly any
activity. They run from the error. They don’t engaged with it. But on the right
you have the students with the growth mindset, the idea that abilities can be
developed. They engaged deeply. Their brain is on fire with yet. They process
the error. They learn from it. They correct it. How are we raising our kids? Are
we raising them from now instead of yet? Are we raising kids who don’t know how
to dream big dreams? Their biggest goal is getting another A or another test
score? And are they carrying this need for constant validation with them into
their future lives?

Maybe employers are coming  to me and saying  we have already raised a generation of young
workers who can’t get through the day without an award. So what can we do? How can
we build bridge to yet? Here are something you can do. First of all, we can
praise wisely, not praising intelligence or talent. That has failed. Don’t do
that anymore. But praising the process that kids engage in: their effort, their
strategies, their focus, their perseverance, their improvement. This process
praise creates kids who are hardy and resilient. There are other ways to reward
yet. We recently teamed up with game scientists from the University of
Washington to create a new online math game that rewarded yet. In this game,
students were rewarded for effort, strategy and process. The usual math game
rewards you for getting answers right right now, but this game rewarded
process. And we got more effort, more strategies, more engagement over longer
periods of time, and more perseverance when they hit really, really hard
problems. Just the words “yet” or “not yet,” we’re finding, give kids
confidence, give kind a path into the future with greater perseverance. And we
can actually change students’ mindsets. In one study, I told them that every
time they push out of their comfort zone to learn something new and difficult,
the neurons in their brain can form new, stronger connections, and over time
they can get smarter. Look what happened: in this study, students who were not
taught this growth mindset continued to show declining grades over this
difficult school transition, but those who were taught this lesson showed a
sharp rebound in their grades. We have shown this now, this kind of improvement
with thousands and thousands of kids, especially struggling students. So let’s talk
about  equality. In our country there are
groups of students who chronically underperform, for example, children in inner
cities, or children on native American reservations. And they’ve done so poorly
for so long that many people think it’s inevitable. But when educators create
growth mindset classrooms steeped in yet, equality happens. Here are just a few
examples. In one year, a kindergarten class in Harlem, New York scored in the
95th percentile on the National Achievement Test. Many of those kids could not
hold a pencil when they arrived at school. In one year, forth grade students in
the South Bronx, way behind, became the number one forth grade class in the
state of New York on the state math test. In a year to a year and a half,
Native American students in a school on a reservation  went from the bottom of their district to the
top, and that district included affluent sections of Seattle. So the native
kids outdid the Microsoft kids. This happened because the meaning of effort and
difficulty transformed. Before, effort and difficulty made them feel dumb, made
them feel giving up, but now, effort and difficulty, that’s when their neurons
are making new connections. That’s when they are getting smarter. I received a
letter recently from a 13-year-old boy. He said, ”Dear Professor Dweck, I appreciate
that your writing is based on solid scientific research, and that’s why I decided
to put it into practice. I put more effort into my schoolwork, into my
relationship with my family, into my relationship with kids at school, and I experienced
great improvement in all of those areas. I now realized I’ve wasted most of my
life.” Let’s not waste any more lives, because once we know that abilities are
capable of such growth, it become a basic human right for children, all
children, to live in places that create that growth, to live in places filled
with yet. Thank you.

此去经年

站在犯错的边缘,忽而发现还有几多留恋

梦里泪湿眼帘,是谁拥我在怀里安眠

我相信我的爱情能等到天长地久

除非你选择放手

而这是绝对不可能的理由

我说,我已将你看穿

像个小孩,可怜可爱的小孩

怎么舍得把你分开

 那么

请你牵着我的手,继续走

直路弯路我和你一起走

或许我就是上天欠你的礼物

而你是我一生的归宿

那么

疲惫了,就休息

苦恼了,就哭泣

快乐了,就忘乎所以

记得

此去经年,千种风情

几首珍藏的诗话

一、手如柔荑,肤如凝脂,领如蝤蛴,齿如瓠犀。螓首蛾眉,巧笑倩兮,美目盼兮。-《诗经·卫风·硕人》

(虽然不知道是谁写的,也有好多字不认识,但是就是觉得这个女人很美。这就是汉语的魅力吧。)

查了之后,才知道怎么读:

荑:(ti题)通“稊”。草名。一种像稗子的草。这里用为草名之意。柔荑 róutí 植物初生的叶芽。用来比喻女子柔嫩洁白的手。

蝤蛴:(qiú求.qí其)天牛的幼虫。此处借以比喻妇女脖颈洁白丰润之美。

瓠:(hù互)瓠瓜。

犀:锋利、坚固。 这里的瓠犀是指瓠瓜的子,方正洁白,而比次整齐,后因以喻美女的牙齿。

螓:(qín秦)虫名。古书上指像蝉的一种昆虫。蝉的一种。体小,方头,广额而有文彩。

二、寻寻觅觅,冷冷清清,凄凄惨惨戚戚。-李清照《声声慢》

三、枯藤老树昏鸦。小桥流水人家。古道西风瘦马。夕阳西下,断肠人在天涯。-马致远《天净沙〃秋思》

现代诗也一样很美啊:

四、在我家的后园,可以看见墙外有两株树,一株是枣树,还有一株也是枣树。-鲁迅《秋夜》

五、把短短的直巷 / 走成一条 / 曲折 / 回荡的 / 万里愁肠  // 左一脚 / 十年 / 右一脚 / 十年  //  母亲啊 / 我正在努力 / 向您 / 走 / 来 -非马《醉汉》

六、下面左边是诗人秦观写苏轼的一封“信”,右边是茶杯上的字: 
               暮   赏                                            以 

          已             花                  

    时                       归                         可                

醒                                 去              

    微                        马                        也                心 

           力            如                

               酒   飞

左边的怎么读才能读出一首七绝?右边茶杯上的字,可以组成几句话?(答案稍后揭晓)

七、落雪飞芳树幽红雨淡霞薄月迷香雾流风舞艳花”20字,无论从哪一字起,无论顺读倒读,都能成五绝一首,可得四十首。

(上面回环诗是:醒时已暮赏花归,去马如飞酒力微。酒力微醒时已暮,赏花归去马如飞。茶杯上的字可组成五句话:可以清心也;以清心也可;清心也可以;心也可以清;也可以清心。)

八、石室诗士施氏,嗜狮,誓食十狮。氏时时适市视狮。十时,适十狮适市。是时,适施氏适市。氏视是十狮,恃矢势,使是十狮逝世。氏拾是十狮尸,适石室。石室湿,氏使侍拭石室。石室拭,氏始试食是十狮尸。食时,始识是十狮尸,实十石狮尸。试释是事。-语言学家赵元任《施氏食狮史》

果戈理说:俄罗斯语言的“每一个声音都是一件馈赠,都是大粒的珍珠,有的名称比东西本身还要珍贵”。汉语不也正是如此吗?